Bad influence of your friends?

      Our mid-term exam had finished; however, there is much more to go ;))

      The article, which was given on our exam was very interesting and made me think about social problems in my country.

     Whereas in Japan people prefer to withdraw themselves from the society, completely isolating themselves, in Russia teenagers prefer to group with each other. Different countries, different cultures; therefore, different perceptions and the ways of self expression.

    

    Group communication is something that we are experiencing every day; not only as a group project meeting, but also going out with the friends.

    Group is a collection of individuals who, as a result interacting with one another over time, become interdependent, developing shared patterns of behaviour and a collective identity.

     However, group influence is not always positive; for example, in Russia. You can often hear from your parents or friends ”It is all a bad influence of his friends”. The main point is – sometimes group communication can have a bad influence on a person, changing his or her perceptions in a negative way.

     Nowadays it is very common in my country that both parents in one family are hard working, in order to get money for living; as a result, they are not able to pay enough attention to their children nurture. Consequently, friends replace parents.

    While parents are busy and spend a lot of the time working, children do not care about the school, and most of the time spend smoking or drinking. In fact, I can say that the average age when a child tries a cigarette is about 8 – 10 years. I know, this is horrible. However, it is all influence of more “mature” friends.

    In my opinion such group communication is a social disorder. When you can see drunk teenager everyday, who are skipping their school.

     The main reason for group communication is  the  three basic interpersonal needs.

    Need for inclusion

    Need for control

    Need for affection

     When parent are not able to give enough attention and love we start to look for it from our friends. That is why teenagers in order go get affection from others can do crazy things. In order to look cool in front of the friends teenagers can try to impress them in all different ways. For example, try smoking illegal substances; first, it can be marijuana; however, later it can end with heroin.

    Because of the lack of control from parent and government, teenage crime is well developed in my country. I think that it is all need for control, which force children to do something, in order to look different from others and to become a leader in the company. For example, “I can steal her valet, but you do not have enough courage, that is why I will become your leader”.

    The influence of a bad company is something that can change your live negatively. Firstly, you need to look and think carefully duing the evaluation procces or group socialisation, whether this group of people is suitable for you and  does they meet your interpersonal needs.