Criticism

     Interpersonal communication plays an essential role in our life. The ways how YOU communicate with other people can be different, depending on the attitude towards that person. You have a different and unique relationship due to the mindset adopted during the interaction. It is called social – cognitive orientation; however, communication is an essential part of the relationships we have with others.

    Without communication it would be impossible to develop, maintain, or strengthen relationships. Communication is the fundamental relational process. 

     All communication is based on language; however, have you ever noticed that you can ‘kill’ a person with only ONE word? It is known as critics. But do we need to criticise people?

     In my opinion criticism is futile,because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.

     When somebody is trying to accuse you, your natural reaction will be to defend yourself, because in your opinion you are sure that you have not done anything wrongly

 Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his senses of importance, and arouses resentment.

     It was proved through the experiments that an animal rewarded for good behaviour will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behaviour. later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.

      There we are; humans nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves. We are all like that. And nobody can change us.

      When we are dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotions, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.

      Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.”

     It is the main aspect of almost all successful people; they never criticise people openly. In my opinion it will be easier to maintain the relationship without criticizing the other party.

     Do not forget the main rule of successful relationships ‘do not critisize’.

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